Have you been feeling a little extra sleepy lately? Are you feeling less productive at work, with household chores, or even with the things that typically bring you happiness?
I've got news for you, this time of year tends to do that to me. It's this strange feeling of loving the crisp, cooler air, loving the cozier nights, but feeling exhausted all the time.
My advice to you is simple, all I'm asking is that you don't snooze the alarm. I know it's a big ask and some days you may feel like it is simple impossible, but tell yourself right now that you won't snooze your alarm, at least not more than you usually do. ;)
To ensure productive days, it is crucial that we don't skip on our typical morning routine at this time of year. Snoozing your alarm for a little extra cozy often yields a butterfly effect on the rest of your day.
When you wake up later, you likely don't ease into your day the way your body and mind may want you to. Waking up late may look something like:
So, even as the daylight gets shorter and the temperature drops, I ask you please...don't snooze your alarm. If you're looking for extra cozy this time of year, opt for an earlier evening instead of a later morning. After all, the early bird gets the worm.
Stay tuned for a sneak peak at my morning routine, sure to warm up the soul and raise the frequencies for a truly successful day.
I love to-do lists. They are exactly what I need to free a busy mind and ensure that I stay on track. As a freelancer, artist, and generally easily distracted person, to-do lists ensure that I don’t go to bed disappointed because I’d forgotten something.
I fell in love the 52 Lists Planner by Moorea Seal over the last year because of the way its free form layout. It lays out each day, week, and month — broken down into a monthly overview, weekly to-dos and intentions, as well as daily top 3 priorities, gratitude for each day, a way to make tomorrow 1% better, and the general space for planning each day.
Having 3 priorities each day allows me to ensure that I am never disappointed when I go to sleep. It reminds me of the three non-negotiable for my day, even if one is as simple as increasing my water intake. The gratitude section reminds me to smile each day for something. The better tomorrow portion allows anything to carry over that I didn’t get to or for something that will make me happy the next day, like more time outside or a call with a family member.
I wasn’t lying when I said I love to-do lists (which is clear when expressing my love for my planner), but what I love more is remembering words that I wrote back in June of 2021.
I was writing in my journal one early morning and these words flew out of me as if the universe was rushing to ensure that I didn’t miss them. They were the words that I’d needed then, that I still need now, and they feel like words that maybe you need too.
“Maybe, just maybe, the days when crossed out to do lists are the days that I am doing things right. Those are the days where I refuse to be burdened by expectations I’ve put on myself. Those are the days that I choose to flow with the motion and movement of the given day instead of feeling trapped inside a book of words that I’ve created. The laundry will get done, the gifts will be purchased, but what we don’t get back is the spontaneity, the creativity, the time.”
All of this to say, it’s great to make lists, but it’s also great to venture away from the list and into the day.
Cheers, friend! To living more spontaneously…
Do you eat the marshmallow or wait for two?
Have you heard of the Stanford marshmallow experiment? Perhaps you have but don’t recognize the name of the experiment.
This experiment, led by psychologist Walter Mischel, is all about delayed gratification and how early we start to learn this as humans.
Basically, young children are given the chance to have a small immediate reward (one marshmallow) or wait a bit of time and get TWO small rewards (two marshmallows).
I was talking about this study recently with my mom in comparison it to my adult life.
I’m a morning person. I always have been. But back in my weekly gig days, I was forced to become someone who stayed out late, I’m talking 2-3am late. Naturally, this took away some of my early mornings, robbing me of what is typically my favorite time of day.
When the pandemic first started, my music nights came to a pretty drastic halt -- but I've found that my early mornings are still being robbed from time to time. I think this all comes down to the Stanford marshmallow experiment.
In the evening, I know that by having another drink (ahem...or two or three...) I will be less likely to wake up early and enjoy a full, relaxing and also productive morning. In many instances I have found that the instant gratification (extra drinks) wins over the delayed gratification (my happy morning).
I’ve been actively finding new ways to remind myself to slow down and see the bigger picture and here are three of the ways I’m doing it:
Try to make note of times that you, as an adult, are a part of your own personal Stanford marshmallow experiment. Decide how many marshmallows you want. If it’s just one, good for you. But if it’s two, find a way to get them both.
P.S. If you're anything like me, all of this talk of marshmallows may leave you with a craving. Check out my favorite vegan marshmallows here!